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Writing as a Form of Personal Therapy

writing-1317009-640x480I think I’ve mentioned before that I have always loved making up and telling stories. It wasn’t until my mid-twenties that it even occurred to me that I should write them down (which is odd since I read tons of books). I believe it’s because I didn’t do well in English class that I believed I’d be a terrible writer as a result (so not true).

Side Note: In my experience, just because you don’t do well in English, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s your fault. When I went to college, I had the highest grade in the class. Having a teacher that is passionate about what he’s teaching and can explain things so they’re easy to understand makes a huge difference.

When I started writing, I was amazed at how much it helped with my anxiety issues. The more I wrote, the calmer I felt. Eventually I realized a lot of it had to do with my overactive imagination. Getting stuff out of my head and onto paper quieted my mind.

Here’s the thing, though. Not everything in my head had to do with story ideas. My overactive imagination causes me to create problems where there aren’t any. Or if there is a problem, I tend to start dwelling on the worst possible outcomes. The more time I have to spend thinking, the worse it gets. So, what I do is, I put my characters in those positions (or similar ones) and see how they deal with them. Oddly, in most cases, I end up realizing that it’s not as bad as I believed it was or that there wasn’t a problem in the first place.

If I go too long without writing, the anxiety builds. I haven’t had time to write much lately because I’m still unpacking from our move and trying to keep the house clean on top of that, not to mention all the other stuff I have to do. So, I’ve been a little on edge and having trouble getting to sleep.

Today, I’m getting back into my regular writing schedule, so I’m hoping it will help. I’m going to be working on Shadow Stalker Part 4. So, we’ll see how I feel tomorrow. Hopefully, much better! 😀

Do you write for therapeutic purposes, or do you find writing helps you? Tell me about your experiences!

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Nightmarish Move From Hell

scanner-fear-3-1251133-638x452I think this has had to have been my most stressful move in my history of moving, and the sad part is we only moved right next door!

It started out pretty well. We paid for an extra week at the old place so we can gradually move our stuff over, and we were right on schedule to have everything out and the place cleaned up. Then I got food poisoning from a Chinese place near here. I could barely do anything for days, so we fell behind. On the last day we ended up being there until 3am just trying to get the place cleaned up. It was a nightmare.

Then to make matters worse, our internet company tried telling us they couldn’t connect our internet because there were no available ports. We were simply transferring our account to the new house. We had a port at the old house… so we couldn’t understand what the problem was. After a week of dealing with that, we finally decided to move to a different company, and lo and behold, we have internet… finally!

Now I have so much to catch up on. I’m just glad I thought to schedule the author spotlights well in advance. I only missed one that was due to be published yesterday so I can just get that set up today and I’ll be on track.

Oh, and because it took so long to get the internet reconnected, I had to reschedule the release for Shadow Stalker Part 3. It will now be released on the 14th of December. Sorry for any inconvenience, especially to those who have pre-ordered. I suppose on the plus side, it will be available at the special $1.99 price for longer. It will go to the regular $3.99 price after the release.

Has anyone else ever experienced a nightmarish move? Tell me about it!

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Grow a Thick Skin


As authors, this is something we hear often, but I sometimes wonder if this is something that should always be necessary. When I hear it, there are times I feel those who say it are trying to give themselves permission to be rude and well… a jerk.

It is necessary when it comes to professional reviews and feedback. You will probably hear things you don’t like, but most of it will be constructive. These are the things we need to take to heart because it can help us greatly improve our writing. So if someone is giving you constructive criticism, even if you feel like telling them where to go at that moment, stop and consider what you can learn from them and thank them for the feedback.

You will also often get not so nice comments about your work, and it may not be constructive, but we have to remember that not everyone is going to like our work. Do you like every book you read? I know I don’t. And I’ve read things (like Twilight) that I loved, and a lot of other people hated. It happens and you can’t get around it. If people make negative comments about your work just because it’s not their thing, well… in truth, that’s their problem and not something you should concern yourself with. They don’t have to like it or read it.

There are others, however, who just say negative things about authors for the sole purpose of causing harm. Sometimes they even work in groups. These people are cyber-bullies. While you should just ignore what they say (at least online… as in don’t engage them publicly), it can be hurtful. If you’re affected, I don’t believe this is the time to “grow a thick skin.” Talk to friends and other authors (that you know and trust) about how you’re feeling, but do it privately. They can help you cope.

Growing a thick skin doesn’t mean you should ignore how you’re feeling when you’re being bullied or attacked on a public forum. What it does mean is that you shouldn’t let constructive criticism bring you down. Learn from it and allow it to make you a better writer.

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